I was stunned to read this post about how immature and selfish divorce is. The author makes some interesting points, but her logic is heavily flawed in places. I don’t have the emotional energy to tear it apart line by line, but I just want to say this: If anyone reading this needs permission to “just run away” from what they think is an unhealthy relationship, I hereby grant it.
Am I pro-divorce? Not necessarily. But I’m entirely against the idea that anyone should have to live in fear or pain because of his or her spouse. Life is too short, people! Everyone deserves to feel safe in their own home.
Divorce is not just for “dumb” people or the mentally ill. That is absurd. Is divorce rough on children? Absolutely. But what children need is to learn how to relate to other people in a healthy way, and that is not always possible while living under the same roof as both Mom and Dad, especially if they are beating on each other.
The author of this post received a surprising number of supportive comments from those who agree that more couples need to suck it up rather than get divorced. Maybe more divorces could be avoided, but it’s a deeply personal decision that I don’t think anyone takes lightly. It’s impossible to know the precise dynamics involved in any marriage but your own, so criticizing anyone else’s decision to divorce is nothing short of ludicrous.
Hannah was the winner of the Unorthodox giveaway. Thanks to everyone for your thoughtful comments.
I Want to Know
What do you think? Do more people need to “suck it up?” Are there times when it’s in the kids’ best interest for their parents to divorce?
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