Earlier this week, I interviewed a young woman named P.K. whose divorce was final in December. I can’t wait to tell you more about her story—and I will in the next week or two—but the thing that’s been on my mind this week is the look in her beautiful brown eyes. The look was subtle. P.K. is quick to smile, but there was s a sadness in her eyes, a fragility. And it was powerful for me to see that in person. After years of writing and reading about divorce (mostly online), it was important for me to witness the raw emotions again firsthand.
Our stories are very different. P.K. didn’t choose divorce. I guess you could say it chose her. Last spring, after a year and a half of marriage, her husband asked for a divorce. Since then, she’s moved on with her life, moving home to Minnesota and staying busy. But something about the unseasonably warm weather we’ve been having this March has stirred things up for her. It feels like spring. “Everything about the season brings it all back,” she said. “There are moments where it’s like it just happened.” And I can see that in her eyes.
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Your Turn:
Is there a specific season that is most difficult for you in terms of stirring up emotions about your divorce?
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I love to read this kind of post! thanks also for your willingness to impart to us about the story you have heard from others.
Just letting you know I’ll be pinning this on pinterest!
Yes, seasons were difficult for me too, in the beginning. Summer felt scary because I always equated being WITH someone in the summer, and not single. But then, as I went on, I LOVED being single in the summer and doing as I pleased. Same thing with the holidays, I got to do so much more of what I wanted to do, not having to split up time going to places I didn’t want to go (my in-laws for example!)
can’t wait to read her story!
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