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Why a Breakup isn't the Same as a Divorce

A breakup can be brutal, no doubt about it. But it’s not the same as a divorce, and here’s why:

In a breakup, you (hopefully) don’t need to hire a lawyer or appear in court. While a breakup could involve a restraining order or a financial dispute, generally speaking, there aren’t any legal implications to splitting [...]

How Divorce Affects Future Relationships

A while back, I asked readers to weigh in on the following question: In what ways has your divorce affected your current behavior when it comes to dating and relationships? The responses that you submitted varied greatly, from feeling as though divorce has taught you what to avoid, to having lingering issues with trust. Your [...]

On Rebounds

I enjoyed a recent Huffington Post Divorce post called “Dating After Divorce: Rebounds and Supernovas” by comedian and writer Juliet Jeske. We all know what a “rebound” relationship is, but what about a “supernova?” Jeske writes, “I call the first major relationship after leaving my husband the supernova—a collection of stars exploding all at once [...]

Slinking Back into the Pool

As far as I was concerned, one of the highlights of getting married was kissing the dating scene goodbye. I met my ex-husband when I was 27, so I’d had my fair share of sizing up strangers as potential dinner companions or life partners, which is about as much fun as shopping for swimsuits. You [...]

Used Goods

During grad school, a slightly older man (maybe all of 30) showed some not-so-subtle interest in me. He was a good-looking guy and was a friend-of-a-friend, which is always a nice perk in an at-least-I-know-he-doesn’t-have-a-criminal-record kind of way. BUT. As soon as I heard the D-word, I was out. Divorced was a deal-breaker.

In my 24-year-old [...]